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 We have an article in this month's Glamour magazine called "Guys' Weird New Habits: Why? Why?" One new habit we looked into were vasectomies for the under-30 -- it seems a small but growing number of men are doing it. So we spoke with "the King of Vasectomies", urologist Dr. Douglas Stein, who performs about 2,000 a year. And he had an interesting take on how vasectomies are, in part, just the green thing to do: "Forty percent of pregnancies are unintended. Yes, some of that is teenagers and you're not going to sterilize them, obviously. But a lot of that 40 percent are people who wouldn't mind if the wand of infertility touched them, but something fails (like their planning or their contraception) and they accidentally get pregnant and have the kid. You have to keep in mind you can recycle every newspaper, Coke bottle, and battery until you die, but you'll never be able to recycle as much as another human being can consume in a lifetime, so preventing one more unintended human is much better for the environment. It's the same thing with your carbon footprint: you can drive a hybrid, ride a bicycle everywhere, use solar power, change your bulbs and you can't possibly reduce your footprint by a factor equivalent to that of another unintended human being. So if you can prevent that, you eliminate an entire lifetime of carbon consumption... 
 Sex party decorations the morning after. This week, our intern Antonio Reis, a first-year at Wesleyan, discusses his rude awakening to campus life: Every September, Wesleyan University's Eclectic Society -- infamous on campus for being a Mecca of musical culture and a bastion of recreational drug use -- invites students to "Get Fucked." This year was no exception. I had no clue what to expect from the people I had stalked on Facebook over the summer and only recently met at orientation. But there they were: 700 students of every class year in the porn-plastered foyer wearing nothing more than bras and G-strings, boxers, jockstraps, etc. I had on a new pair of black and red Aussiebums (that's 40 U.S.D. wrapped around my nether-parts) under a white hoodie. We all crowded into two large ballrooms where video porn was projected onto the bare walls. In one corner was a massive Alice-In-Wonderland-esque armchair that was so big it required a step stool to get into. I threw my sweatshirt under it. A writhing mass of sweaty bodies danced to the tunes of uber-hipster DJs. Women painted to look like marble statues struck poses on pedestals around the room. Two kissing booths were set up: one with a set of female twins, the other with a set of male twins (all four were students). A hut adorned with lace was constructed in one corner, filled to the brim with cushions and pillows for couples in need of semi-privacy and comfort, stat. There were so many condoms in different flavors and textures scattered around the rooms that I actually slipped on a pile of them...
DO TELL
11.19.2008
BY DAILYBEDPOST.COM
 Em & Lo I am a 31-year-old male in California and have been married for 6 1/2 years. Back in March, my wife came to me one night and said she would like to discuss something with me...I knew it was something serious but never imagined she'd say, "What do you think about an open marriage?" She is conservative by nature so this took me by complete surprise. I have dated her since she was 18, she is now 28, and we have two kids. She says she doesn't want to leave me or the kids, but admits to feeling trapped -- like she never lived out her early 20's. We have discussed it over the last couple of months: she is persistent in wanting this. What are the positives of this and can it be healthy for a marriage? Confused Husband Dear C.H, First, can we just say we love that you're concerned, cautious and confused about your wife's request? The cliché male response would be to immediately jump at an opportunity like this. "I can get a free pass from my wife to sleep with other women?!? Hells yes!" Of course, not all men are immune to the powerful bonds of traditional, monogamous marriage. They too can cherish the stability and intimacy that comes from dedicating your life to someone, body and soul...OR, they're so riddled with jealousy that they couldn't stand the thought of their wife sleeping with anyone else and would just prefer to secretly cheat behind her back so they can have their cake (they sleep around) and eat it too (their wives don't). For the sake of courtesy, let's assume you fall into the former category. Though chances are, as a guy who got married at 25, you too have had the occasional thought of what it might be like to sleep with other people. (Frankly, we think these thoughts never end, whether you get married at 20 or 40, whether you're male or female). For some people, these thoughts are fleeting, and often pass with a little quality alone time spent with your fantasies or some Internet porn. For others, though, they become more persistent, niggling thoughts that begin to disrupt your relationship and happiness. It's at that point that something needs to be done: couple's counseling, a concerted joint effort to reinvigorate your sex lives together, or some kind of mutually agreed upon "arrangement"...
 For those of you who voted in favor of one-night stands yesterday, here's a little refresher course on how to make said one-night stands as nice as possible, in every sense of the word. Just because you're never going to see someone again, doesn't mean you can treat them unkindly. Because if today we're rude to our one-night stands, tomorrow we'll stop holding elevators for strangers in a hurry, and by the weekend we'll be answering our cellphones in church. So here are ten good rules to follow: 1. Always lay your cards on the table before the strip poker begins--we like to call this the "pre-nook." Confirm that your date for the evening has no delusions of grandeur about a future together. Too many people out there--including, yes, some men--think that when you sleep with them, it means you care. The responsible cad or cadette weeds these persons out of the mix by being up front about his or her intentions.* 2. That said, it's just plain rude to beat off a dead horse. Let's say you have a one-night stand and the conversation is stimulating and the sex even more so. Let's say your bedmate suggests doing it again sometime as they head for the door. It would be a bit of a slap in the face to begin hyperventilating and gasp, between breaths, "I...am...not...looking...for...a relationship." Plus, they might make a good booty call!
Madness, sadness, and general lameness online...
 Okay, so we know that you can't believe everything that a celebrity (or a celebrity magazine or a celebrity flack) says, and we know that it's hard enough to figure out how and why your own relationship ended, let alone that of Joe Jonas and Taylor Swift. (Or, say, Matt Damon and Minnie Driver: We once believed that Matt actually dumped Minnie on The Oprah Winfrey Show--but looking back, we now find ourselves squarely on Team Matt.) Also, we know that teenagers can't always be expected to act maturely when even fully grown adults screw up breakups on a daily basis. Hell, even yours truly have been breakup biotches in our time, and we literally wrote the book on how to do it nicely. That all said, we feel it's our responsibility--being that we, you know, wrote the book on it--to speak out on how Joe Jonas may or may not have dumped Taylor Swift. As Taylor told Ellen DeGeneres (and really, who wouldn't want to get a little empathy and a big hug from Ellen after getting dumped?) Joe did the deed during a 27-second phone call. Um, sorry, no: The only dumping that should ever be done over the phone is when you're calling Dominos to cancel that pizza because it's taking too long. If the relationship is serious enough to make it into Us Weekly, then it's definitely serious enough to require an in-person breakup.
 Very rarely are other people's dreams interesting...except when they're about sex. This week, dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tackles a mysterious reappearing ex. I have been having dreams about my ex-husband lately. I am kind of confused because I keep wondering if leaving him was the right choice and now I have these intense dreams that are so real it scares me. All the dreams I have about him are different but they all involve sex or heavy petting. And sometimes we do crazy things during sex that we never did while we were married. I would really love to know what is going on here because I am in a relationship now that I have been in over a year and it just all of a sudden started happening. Should she go back to the well, or is she just dreaming in rose-tinted glasses? Find out after the jump (right after you send us your own dreams!):
 Our inbox is overflowing and we'll never get to all the lonely hearts, so each week, one reader's fate will be left up to the masses. Answer this reader's question by filling out the poll after the jump: Is a one-night stand really worth it? I mean, yeah I WANT it. But will I feel bad about myself in the end? --Casual Sex Confusion
 aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th) You will think you have found love--or at least really good sex--this week, but it won't last, because they're lying to you. Hate to make you feel like you've been kicked in the nuts now, but it's better than feeling like your heart's been ripped out through your esophagus later, right? taurus (Apr. 21st-May 20th) We have one word of relationship advice for you: Google. It's not nosy--we all do it. And in your case, you might just be very glad you did. Just remember: don't believe everything you read...unless it's written by us. gemini (May 21st-June 21st) Easy come, easy go. Who knows what the hell is going on with your love life--the revolving door to your bedroom is spinning so fast, everything's a blur. You might want to consider changing your sheets.
 Um, wait, what? A friend just sent us this picture, apparently taken this week, and uploaded to this White House URL (sure to be taken down any second now). We too asked our friend, "Isn't that the symbol for the tricky handwork move known as 'the shocker," i.e two fingers in the va-ja-jay and one in the bum?!" Well, yes and no.
Apparently, the picture has something to do with the Arizona State University's softball and track and field teams--each won national championships and visited the White House this week. The Sun Devil is their mascot, and he carries a pitchfork, which this hand gesture represents. Plus, it looks like the letter W, for George W. Bush. And technically speaking, the the shocker would have your index and middle finger pressed together. But at first glance you've got to admit it looks an awful lot like "the shocker," which is why we, being the two very mature and responsible sex writers that we are, felt obligated to post it. Sure, it's an innocent, unfortunate, accidental pornographic reference made by an unknowing administration, but one we think is symbolic of how utterly obscene this government's policies have been--and how they've basically screwed the country over.
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